SURVIVING Sexual Abuse: A Practical & Creative Response to Child Abuse

The silent screams of sexually abused children surrounds us. Abuse is far more common than we realise. 'The solution will depend on whether we want to see there is a problem,' - Kevin brown.

ISBN: 1854243985

Publisher Monarch Publications

































Why is abuse so common?

Why is abuse by both men and women so often covered up?

What can be done about it?

This is a Practical ... Response to Child Abuse by Kevin Brown

Examples of Sexual Abuse

  • A girl who was sexually abused by her father until her teens when she eventually reported what was happening with the result that her father was tried and imprisoned.

  • A boy who was abused by his football coach and thought he was alone with the experience until a number of boys reported being similarly abused several years later.

  • A young girl whose teenage step-brother used to play games with her at an early age which she realised when she reached puberty had been sexually intrusive.

  • A boy who was regularly abused by a trusted uncle and aunt with whom he was often sent to stay. This abuse took place over a number of years during which he was unable to say why he did not wish to visit these relatives.

  • Two sisters who both suffered abuse at the hands of a grandfather but who never spoke about it until many years later.

The experience of abuse is not restricted to one sex and indeed abusers are not invariably male. Most recent estimates in Britain suggest at least 10% of children suffer sexual abuse at some time, with two thirds of the victims being girls. In over 90% of the cases the perpetrator of the abuse is male.

The Victim’s Experience at the Time of Abuse

  • Victims report feeling very alone with the experience of abuse. Often they are afraid of telling, because of fear of retribution or the consequences for the family.
  • Victims frequently feel they will not be believed or taken seriously if they tell of what has happened, and this fear can be confirmed when they do try to raise the matter.
  • Victims frequently feel guilty. The abuser may suggest they are to blame for the abuse or they may take responsibility upon themselves. Children naturally tend to assume responsibility for events that are not of their making, and this is particularly true in the case of abuse. The guilt is increased if the child has found any aspect of the abuse gratifying.
  • Victims commonly report feeling extremely scared and confused by the abusive experience.

The author writes not only as an experienced social worker, but as a father of three children, two of whom suffered violent sexual abuse inflicted by adults they trusted. He describes movingly his horror and despair when abuse comes to light, and his concern that he might have played an unwitting part himself. He therefore writes with both professional understanding and personal insight.


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